Do little boys listen to to their mom’s incessant reminders while sitting in the car?
Do they register what mom is saying at all?
Do they care?
I don’t know when else I can have these chats with this boy. In the car, on the way to his sports camp, after his sister is dropped off, seemed like a good idea.
In hindsight, it’s a terrible idea. Because what this boy needs is EYE CONTACT. At eye level, if possible. Because eye contact at eye level is the only way I can be assured he not only hears me, he registers what I am saying to him. And more importantly, understands what I expect of him.
If I speak to him at eye level with eye contact the odds of him retaining what I am saying increase…right?
My car conversation with him this morning went something like this:
Me: Why do you tease your sister when she’s already cranky?
Ben: (turns his face to look out the window.)
Ben: I don’t know.
Me: That high-pitches screeching she does is really irritating to me and your dad.
Ben: (I wish we had a black pickup truck like that one)
Me: Are you listening to me?
Ben: (Or a trailer! Yes, we need a trailer!)
Me: We really don’t like starting the day out all irritated like this. Do you like it when daddy and I are all tense?
Ben: (Maybe we can get a trailer hook to put on the new pickup truck and pull the trailer from there.)
Me: How about you help me out here. When Sonja is already cranky, you just leave her alone. Okay?
Me: Benjamin? Are you listening to me?
Ben: *sigh* Yes.
Why do I bother? I’ll have to repeat this conversation next time he’s standing in front of me and I have his undivided attention.
Apparently this is a recurring problem. This not listening to me.